Who Am I?
I’m a 29 year old single mum (yes it’s important to state I’m still in my 20’s!), living and working full time in London on the digital team for a fashion head office.
I have a 2:1 degree. I make my own money. I have a job. I pay my own bills and rent. Just to clear that up. Phew… how many bloggers feel the need to write that? #SingleMumIssues
I became a mum at the age of 18, after my high school sweetheart and I decided to be parents. It was definitely was a controversial decision that I would not encourage my own daughter to make at 18, but as all mums will tell you, it’s so worth while and I feel very lucky to have her. Her dad lives in America and visits once a year, so it’s just the two of us. I’ve had a few relationships since Lys was born, but they just haven’t been right and I’m truly happy being single, despite what society says I should be feeling about being a single mum.
My life has changed dramatically (over and over) in the last 10 years. I’ve been a single mum on benefits, lived with parents, lived alone, I’ve been a married US air force wife, a single part time working mum, a university degree student and a full time working mum. Every single one of those situations was difficult but rewarding in different ways and my hat comes off for every single mum no matter you’re situation right now.
I’ve moved 9 times since my daughter was born, and she’s been to 4 primary schools, but we’ve finally settled in London for the last year and I want to share my journey with any other mum’s looking to do the same.
It’s not easy and I’m not advocating teenagers go out and get pregnant, because although I adore my daughter, it would have been so much smarter to have her a few years later. But hey, it didn’t turn out that way and that’s ok. I want to show you that you can live the life you want to lead and raise a happy, healthy child too.
I’d love to say that because I’m nearly 30 that I’m really mature and worldly, but the truth is I’m sitting here with pigtail plaits, wearing my “Shell Yeah” mermaid jumper I got from the sample sale at work yesterday. When we first moved here 6 months ago I got ID’d for a library card (seriously, don’t you have to be like, 14?) and I regularly get looks of horror and shock when people realise the child standing next to me, almost as tall as me is mine. I still feel like being a young mum doesn’t really ever leave you. People will always show their disdain and shock, judge you and question you. I get it every single day and it’s always just as offensive every time but you learn to react better!
So if you’re a single parent looking for some inspiration, or just to feel you’re not the only one doing it (because trust me, it definitely feels that way a lot of the time), I hope you can relate to my blog!
Find me on Instagram: @hanhalley
Who Is Lys?
Lys is my 10 year old tom-boy daughter, actually named Alyssa.
From the age of about 6, she hated anything girly and refused to shop in the girl’s clothing section. So we’ve been all about Marvel, football, skating, PS4 and Diary Of A Wimpy Kid. Current faves are playing tennis, Minecraft, hanging out with her new friends and hanging out at the skate park. At school her favourite subjects are maths (not sure we’re really related?!), PE and art.
Lys is very strong willed and knows her own mind, but shes also very sweet. I’m really proud of her knowing her own mind and wearing what she wants, even though other kids have always teased her about it; she wears what she feels comfortable in. Most adults don’t have the guts to do that, so she’s a little star. Proud mum alert.